Phase 1
It is almost as if you have married an angel and the same notion is
thought of you. The way spouses humble themselves in front of each other
immediately after marriage is a unique experience.
Phase 2
Time is needed to adjust and acquaint yourself with your other half. We
intended it to be a lifelong commitment, therefore should honour this union
with utmost sincerity.
Phase 3
Each partner has not been deceived at all. The reality is that time has
passed and the marriage has progressed without the opportunity to ponder.
The addition of children introduces a new dimension.
Therefore, it is not just about the husband and wife anymore, the
children have a significant influence too.
Phase 4
This phase is slightly more complex. The spouses are now busy with their
lives and the bond that was kept firm for a while can begin to weaken. At this
point it is important for both to be level headed and show tolerance.
Trivial issues are the reasons for the arguments and quarrels that can
lead to conflict.
However attitude and persistence is the key - you can either have a 'no
can do’ attitude or decide to be sincere and commit to persevere. It is unrealistic to expect everything to be
perfect as everyone is prone to errors.
Phase 5
This is a phase where we can give ourselves a pat on the back! We agreed
to compromise in everything we do together and understood the way to a
successful marriage is to be balanced in our approach, tolerant where needed,
silent where necessary and patient till we find a solution.
IMS,
(11th Jumad al-Thani 1435, 11th April 2014)
Edited
by Umm Amaani
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