Recommendations - Marriage Solutions

Hamidaw wa Musallien wa Musallaima

Bismihi Ta’aala

The significance of the sacred, blessed and great institution of Nikaah has been emphasized over and over again in the Qur’an Shareef and Ahaadith in different ways. Nikaah is simple, natural and practical. 

Unfortunately, today it has become very elaborate, fancy and made to appear as something complicated. We have, in this way, invited and attracted problems to ourselves. 

If we return to the simple traditional mode of contracting a Nikaah from the very onset of searching for a suitable spouse up until the consummation and Walimah, we will once again observe the great blessings, which Allah Jalla Jalaluhu had placed therein. 

If the Nikaah commences on the basis of simplicity according to the Sunnah, we will very easily find solutions to any ‘disagreement’ between the spouses. 

In reality, any discord or friction between the spouses is generally based upon the evil character that we harbour within ourselves and fail to treat adequately. Otherwise, if each spouse learns to overlook and genuinely attempt to ‘salvage’ the marriage together with sincere Dua and seeking Allah’s Jalla Jalaluhu help, no ‘major problem’ will become an obstacle in the success of the marriage insha Allah. 

Nikaah should create love and such a relationship, which becomes a means of helping the spouses to fulfill their Deeni duties.

Alhamdulillah, Maulana Fadhlul Islam has identified the areas of concern and most importantly has provided easy and practical solutions for all married couples to adhere to. May Allah Jalla Jalaluhu accept it. May Allah Jalla Jalaluhu protect all our Muslim marriages and grant all types of success to each one of them. Aameen

03 Dhul Qa’dah 1434 (9^th September 2013)

Hazrat Maulana Abdul Hamid Sahib, (Azaadville, South Africa)

Islamic Marriage Solutions are working sensitively on one of the most challenging problems of our time, with huge repercussions for the wellbeing and mental health of husbands and wives, children and others knitted into the same families. Their work judiciously applies a combination of Islamic and other timeless principles to recreate balance, intimacy and mutual understanding between spouses. 

18, Rabi uth-Thani 1435, (18, February 2014)

Dr K Qureshi, (University of Oxford)

Marriage is an institution which forms the bedrock of society, keeps the community strong and lineage of generations pristine and pure. Couples embark on a journey together hoping to fulfil a great Sunnah, increase the Ummah and care for one another. 

The day is such that this wonderful institution has been trivialised, due to lack of self-control and mutual respect. Initially the couple assume it will be all fruits and roses, however when it does not plan out that way, they begin to turn on one another. As grown sane adults it is upsetting to see problems cannot be resolved, letting pride and ego get in the way, no consideration for the opposite party, their life and family.

In the UK, according to the Office of National Statistics there were 13 divorces an hour in England and Wales in 2012. This is one startling fact amongst many. It is for this reason Islamic Marriage Solutions is a great initiative and platform to try to resolve marriage issues. Having a neutral mediator can help a great deal in many problems.

After analysing what IMS has to offer, it is hoped many can benefit from this service and resolve issues at hand. May Allah accept the efforts of all involved in this and may He aid and assist in all matters which are brought to IMS.

18, Rabi uth-Thani 1435 (18, February 2014)

Shaykh Abdul Aziz Patel (Ebrahim College, London UK)

Hamidaw wa Musallien wa Musallaima

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

In the modern and monotonous life we live in and the exhausting hustle bustle we are experiencing we sometimes forget the countless bounties and blessings our creator showers upon us. One of these great blessings is the blessing of marriage.

Allah Ta’ala states in the Noble Qur’aan “And among his signs is that he created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find contentment in them, and he has instilled between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for people who reflect”. (Quran 30:21)

However some have the misconception that the garden of marriage is free from any thorns and will always be rosy. Rather these thorns make up this beautiful garden of marriage.

Allah Ta’ala has created the nature and temperament of men and women different from each other, as the English saying goes “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus”. Therefore to maintain a balance and a blissful marriage each partner should be considerate to each other’s emotions and feelings. 

A husband’s treatment towards his wife should reflect a Muslims good character, which in turn is a reflection of a man’s faith. In this regard Nabi Sallalaahu alayhi wa sallam has said “The best among you are those who are best to their family and I am best to my family.” (Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah)

Kind treatment generates true and deep seated love of the husband in the wife’s heart. The wife in turn becomes eager and enthusiastic to serve her husband and accords him the honour he deserves.

Nabi Sallalaahu alayhi wa sallam has said “Verily Allah is Most Kind, and he loves kindness in all affairs”. (Bukhari and Muslim)

Nabi Sallalaahu alayhi wa salam has also said “Kindness is not found in anything, but it adds beauty to it and if it is withdrawn (from it) it defects it”. (Muslim)

However if any issues with regards to ones marriage were to occur in the past then these issues used to be consulted and solved through the help and aid of the Ulama and the elders of the family. However, presently this attitude has shifted towards finding solutions in the courts and various other alien ways.

Alhamdulellah our colleague and good friend Maulana Fadhlul Islam Khan Hafidhahullaah has initiated a service for the Muslim Ummah whereby marital issues can Inshaa allah be solved in accordance to the beautiful teachings of Islaam.  

Maulana Fadhlul Islam Hafidhahullaah has identified the areas of concern and most importantly has provided easy and practical solutions for all married couples to adhere to. It is a sad reality that marital problems, divorce rates, domestic violence amongst our Muslim families are always on an increase. The reason for this is due to the absence of adopting the life style of our beloved Nabi Sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam.

May Allah Jalla Jalaaluhu accept it. May Allah Jalla Jalaaluhu protect all our Muslim marriages and grant all types of success to each one of them. Aameen

23th Rabi uth-Thaani 1435 (23th February 2014)

Khaadimuddeen Mufti Muhammad Irshad Motara, (Auckland, New Zealand)

Islamic Marriage Solutions is a much needed service for the Muslim community in Britain and for our times.

Living in the west our Islamic values can get mixed and influenced by secular understandings of marriage and relationships.

As Muslims we must adhere to the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh) who treated his wives with respect and love, and was the best example of how a husband should be. 

Islamic Marriage Solutions, reviving the Islamic tradition, offers scholarly advice in conjunction to our current times, helping spouses understand their duties towards each other to develop a healthy loving marriage founded on the principles of Islam.

29^th Rabi al- Awwal 1438, (31^st December 2016)

(Tahir Alam BA, MA, PhD current SOAS, University of London)

Feedback - Marriage Solutions

1) “The information that was given to me was THE GUIDE I was looking for. I was seeking advice that compiled with our Deen yet related to my situation. I was given an excellent platform to explain, release and vent my issues. I was heard immediately and responded to with correct advice.

Furthermore, the evidence was also explained to me as to why the solution was correct for me.” (London, UK)

2) “I needed immediate help and advice, I received the appropriate solutions and necessary measures to be taken and acted upon for my situation.” (London, UK)

3) “I have found the Sheikh very fair as he understood both sides and cultures. He allowed us to fully voice our concerns before making any judgements. His advice was accordance with Qur’an and Sunnah and he always referred back to these sources.

He advised on practical means that were relevant to us and to maintain our relationship in a way that is most beloved to Allah.” (London, UK)

4) “Islamic Marriage Solutions was my main port of call for Islamic advice and guidance on rules of marriage (and divorce) according to the Shari’ah Law. I was pointed in the right direction to help facilitate in achieving a sufficient conclusion within the difficult marital circumstances I was faced with.

Although there were several complicated matters surrounding my marriage, Islamic Marriage Solutions always handled each situation with sensitivity, confidentiality and utmost respect. Furthermore, my case was one that required several overseas correspondences (with the USA) which IMS did without hesitation or difficulty.

The most outstanding thing about IMS is that I was kept in the loop and informed verbally and in writing throughout the entire process, 100% of the time. I would recommend their services to others who are in a situation where they require Islamic perspectives on marriage or simply a 'peacemaker' to aid in a marriage of any nature.” (Birmingham, UK)

5) “A unique approach to a common problem, dealt with in a calm, positive and most importantly Islamic manner. This service can really help you see your problems simplistically and Maulana emphasises this in a very good way.” (London, UK)

6) “IMS has helped me overcome and helped me resolve my situation that I was in, and as I was in need of help I went to them as I believed that IMS was the best way forward.

It helped me in many ways to understand on how to move forward according to Shari’ah, and would refer to Qur’an and Hadeeth to make me and my partner understand the way we should act upon any difficulties. They also dealt with any issues that I may have had, and was quick to deal with.

I would recommend this service to those who are looking to overcome any difficulties they may have, and what better way to do so by using the ISLAMIC MARRIAGE SOLUTIONS.” (London, UK)

7) “I found Maulana’s approach gentle and open towards both my husband and I.

His knowledge was not just about the rulings on Marriage but also how to apply it fairly between spouses, his advice throughout the mediation showed his appreciation and knowledge of people from different and complex backgrounds and situations and he was able to advice Islamically help us to come to a conclusion which is most pleasing to Allah and our Deen.

The shaykh was very organised, knowledgeable and very easy to talk to” (London, UK)

8) There is a lot of confusion on the issue of divorce (Talaaq) and what’s accepted. It’s like the more you try and find answers the more the more baffling it gets, I am grateful for IMS for showing me the ropes, there’s a lot I didn’t know about, like 3 Talaaqs in one sitting ( and it’s over), the waiting period etc.

I would have taken a different avenue but Alhamdulillah the advice from IMS has helped me immensely. May Allah reward them in this life and the hereafter. (London, UK)

9) I found Islamic Marriage Solutions very helpful! They gave me time to listen to my issues and advised accordingly.

I found them extremely respectful towards my situation and was pleased with such a quick response. (Luton, UK)

10) I am very grateful for all the advice, support and Islamic guidance that IMS has given me.

IMS has helped me rediscover myself of my rights and obligations and purpose of being here as a servant of Allah.

IMS always took their time with me and listened and always thought things through from both sides before advising.

IMS was always fair and allowed me to make decisions that best suited me. Thank you again.(London, UK)

11) Alhamdulillah the counselling session was very helpful. I think we (me and my husband) both had a fair chance to speak and i feel we got a lot of support.

I felt there was a little more understanding between us. And i really appreciated a female (co-advisor) being there as it really helped me feel like she could relate to what i was saying.(London, UK)

12) I have found the Moulana very helpful and attentive. It’s the best thing I did since my issues started.

What I liked about their service was the fact that they let you make the decisions but they will help you realise within yourself of what is better for you. Also the post care treatment was excellent so it wasn’t just a service for a moment but an actual interest on how I was getting on with my life. Best thing I did Alhamdulillah.