Overlook the bitter to taste the better - Marriage Solutions

What relationship is there that doesn't go through the smallest of unjustified disputes?

We are simply not ready to withdraw from such insignificant issues, but if we had overlooked them, perhaps then, we could have looked at the more fruitful side of things.

Not valiant enough to own up to a mistake, we like charging at one another, so that we may keep the upper hand at all times.

We drag up everything we can think of, from the past, present and now we even predict the faults of each other, true?

As spouses, we cannot justify most arguments, and that is because there weren’t any justifications in the first place! On the other hand, we should acknowledge and accept any misconduct from OUR side and try to rectify that.

Stay away from the futile and baseless confrontations, instil the following and see how you can take benefit;

1)    Aspire in working towards what you both want and make that a certainty in whatever you do.

2)    Make it a priority to compromise where necessary.

3)    Create a harmonious atmosphere through a degree of mutual tolerance.

4)    Mutual tolerance can act as a countermeasure for futile arguments if you are both willing.

Look at the positives of a relationship rather than digging deep into trivial issues and see how you can prosper in lieu of breaking down

Contact Imam Fozrul Khan for immediate and general Marriage Advice and Solutions

07946 445 460

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Marriage Solutions, Immediate Advice - Marriage Solutions

It is our interest to share with you some of the advice and solutions to day-to-day domestic problems that arises between spouses.

From our experience we have seen that spouses are in need of immediate help and this is rising rapidly.  Sometimes the situation is not pleasant and it intensifies in a very short period. We have therefore listed for both spouses a number of immediate solutions that they can refer to.

We stress that they ponder upon these points and ask themselves if it is worth while going contrary to these points.

·        Do not make decisions that affect both of you on your own.

·        Do not rush; take your time.

·        Keep all doors wide open for communication.

·        Be truthful with your partner and yourself (i.e. admit if you are also wrong).

·        Smile.

·        Move away from heated arguments; don’t wait, be the first to do it.

·        Say something good, otherwise keep silent.

·        Overlook the day-to-day trivial things (yes both of you).

·        Assess yourself at the end of each day (your behaviour towards your partner).

·        Make an introspection of yourself.

·        Do not talk about the past mistakes of your partner.

·        Do not indulge yourself upon the things that your partner despises.

·        Apologise quickly if you make a mistake.

·        If you get angry sit down if this does not work lie down.

·        Refer the long term unresolved problems to a marriage counsellor.

These are some immediate points that will help couples in the long run and especially in the short run. Problems arise and sometimes it is difficult to get hold of an arbitrator.  The above points should be taken seriously and be pondered upon.

Look at the positives of a relationship rather than digging deep into trivial issues and see how you can prosper in lieu of breaking down.

Email admin@islamicmarriagesolutions.co.uk, alternatively, Contact Fadhlul Islam Khan on:07943 888 099

sisters, contact Umm Ubayd on: 0753 809 1744   

Follow us on Twitter @m4rriagesolut4n

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Immediate Advice - Marriage Solutions

It is for your mutual benefit that we share with you some advice and solutions for day-to-day domestic problems that arise between spouses.

From our experience we have seen that spouses are in need of immediate help and you are not alone.  Sometimes the situation is not pleasant and it intensifies in a very short period. We have therefore listed for both spouses a number of immediate solutions that they can turn to.

We advise that a person ponders upon these points and ask themselves if it is worthwhile acting contrary to these points.

·         Do not make decisions that affect both of you on your own.

·         Do not rush; take your time.

·         Keep all doors wide open for communication.

·         Be truthful with your partner and yourself (i.e. admit if you are also wrong).

·         Do not talk about the past mistakes of your partner.

·         Apologize quickly if you make a mistake.

·         Smile.

·         Reflect on the prophet Muhammad and his relationship with his wives.

·         Move away from heated arguments; don’t wait, be the first to do it.

·         If you get angry sit down if this does not work lie down.

·         Perform ablution if you get angry.

·         Spend a few more minutes in your place of prayer (ask Allah for guidance).

·         Say something good otherwise keep silent.

·         Overlook the day-to-day trivial things (yes both of you).

·         Greet with ‘Salam’ every time you meet.

·         Do not indulge yourself upon the things that your partner despises. 

·         Assess yourself at the end of each day (your behaviour towards your partner).

·         Make an introspection of yourself.

·         Refer the long term unresolved problems to a marriage counsellor.

These are some immediate points that will help couples in the long run (if maintained) and especially if immediately acted upon. Problems arise and sometimes it is difficult to get hold of an arbitrator, I am a qualified scholar and an experienced marriage counsellor.

Email: admin@islamicmarriagesolutions.co.uk
 Alternatively, 

contact Fozrul Khan on: 07946 445 460 

sisters, contact Umm Ubayd on: 0753 809 1744

Follow us on Twitter @m4rriagesolut4n